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I'm 36 & living with my 40 year old bf. We have been together for 5 years & living together for 3 1/2 years.?

I lost my job last May due to a medical condition. My cobra health insurance runs out in a few months & I do not qualify for medicaid or private insurance ( I've applied for both several times but was declined). My bf tried to get me on his health insurance through his work but we have to be married before I can be added. I'm a little sad that my boyfriend wouldn't just marry me so I could get on his insurance. We are already committed & have been living a husband & wife. I don't understand why he would just let me go w/o insurance & medical care when he could easily fix the problem. I have a serious medical condition & I'm awaiting a major surery in the next month or two. I don't know what I am going to do when I lose my health insurance:( Of course I wouldn't be marrying him just for insurance but I already know I want to spend my life with him. Sometimes it feels like he doesn't care that I could go w/o heath care. The doctors & hospitals won't do this major surgery if I don't have health insurance. Any thoughts?

Public Comments

1. the american health system is stuffed , it is terrible put it on the line you need to get married would he like it to be him or should you look for someone else
2. You have more problems than you know. He can easily add you as a Live in Partner under Federal Law and he knows this.
3. See i they have a domestic partner provision.
4. In your case it's the why buy the cow when the milk is free, Being that I'm a gay man he says why buy the pig when the sausage is free, moral of story I'm in the same boat as you well sort of anyway.
5. If he does not put you on his health insurance, leave him. And it is time that he marries you too. You deserve a real man and true love
6. If you have spoken with him about this and he continues to deny you marriage, then what can anyone on Yahoo Answers say that will help you? If you have not spoken with him, then you need to and you need to be as open and honest as you've ever been. I wish you luck. Sounds to me like it will work out before too long.
7. Not only health insurance but he should be taking care of you in all areas unless he just wants free sex but no marriage.
8. You could go home to your family where you can get some support and some help. If your boyfriend isn't willing to take care of you after your surgery, you need to go back to your family. You can look at this as a turning point in your life. You shouldn't continue to live with him when he isn't willing to take care of you as a husband should. You need to be supported by your family, and he isn't treating you as such.
9. ouch!! I actually married for health insurance purposes too. Me and my wife had a kid but as soon as that hepened she no longer had health insurance. She already had a kid of her own. I figure, well, might as well marry her because I did not want to leave her and my son without insurance. My daughter would had been covered because she is blood related. I figure, I was going to marry her anyways so does it really matter if is this week or a year from now? I think he just isn't ready to marry you. He doesn't want to. Why else would he not marry you? I think you have to put this on the table and make clear where exactly you and him stand. Show each other card because this is an important decision. It is through the hard times that yu get to show your true love for a person. Valentines day, a trip here and there, a ring, that is all meaningless. Those are things anybody can buy if they save enough money. Love, affection, friendship, being there in times of need now!! that's something different and special. So, you need o talk to this boy to see where you stand cause you don't want to be wasting your time with someone who is not going to be there when you need him.
10. I completely agree with ronald - also the "marry me or lose me" game didn't work with my husband either. Well, at least not at the time - he is my husband now but only after it was "his decision". Men are weird like that