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do guardian ad litems usually recommend 50/50 custody?

do guardian ad litems usually recommend 50/50 custody? in a case where both parents love their kids but one parents home may be slightly bigger and more room and less cluttered and has safety gates cabinet latches and all that stuff. that parent and spouse have 2 cars pay their bills on time , no government assistance and in general are financially stable and have a pretty good family support network that the kids see grandparents and such with then the other parent currently has custody but they have a small single wide mobile home for 2 adults and 4 kids, a cluttered house (not dirty with food everywhere just lots of junk) continues to get cars repossessed, has had elec turned off, eviction notice for not paying rent, gets food donations from church since cant afford food at times has phone and cable turned off cause cant pay bill. also don't take kids to dr cause they cant pay the co-pmt for the visit or for medications nor if they don't have a car at the time cant get there. also have lied to other parent saying they took child to dr when child was ill but medical records prove that they never did take the child to the dr like they said. and 2 year old had cavities and knew knew but didn't get them fixed while on medicaid ( free to fix) and when the child was almost 5 child complains about teeth parent still wont take them since now child is on other parents insurance so would have co pmts they cant afford. and when gets notice saying they are being taken to court for child custody they finally take child to dentist and dentist says child now has 3 cavities and no signs of previous dental work so that is proof they never took care of previous cavities when child was 2. and parent recently had a transplant is on disability. in neither house is there any drugs, smoking or alcohol, don't think kids are being beaten but get a little more physical discipline than they should but one child has said they get hit in mouth if they say something bad with the parent that cant pay the bills. would you think a guardian ad litem would recommend 50/50 custody? I know they are there for what is best for the kids and it is usually best to spend equal time with both parents so would they recommend this in this situation first off im not the one doing the robbing im the one being robbed. and im the one that has recomended mediation to come to a mutual agreement but other parent just says they should be with them and me only every other weekend. i want my kids to have both parents and step parents that care about them not just care about hurting parents feeligns that is actually what i am requesting is them get everyother weekend, shared holidays and i even added easter adn 4th july so its fare since one parent usually has that holiday fall during their time and the other never gets kids for that holiday. and they get atleast a month in the summer and every friday evening well I live in a mobile home just a larger one so im not dissing him for that. the transplant is not why he cant afford anything sicne well before the transplant he kept quiting jobs and refused to work cause he didnt make enough money. and i think i am being quite nice seeing as i was 15 and he 24 when i got pregnant and he was a adult that should have know better than to take sexual advantage of a troubled teen. the kids are happy kids and knwo both parents and step parents love them but they dont like it that their dad just lays in bed playing video games all the time and will not play with them or take them to the park when he is a stay at home dad. RESPONSIBLE PARENT WOULD SEEK MEDICAL AND DENTAL CARE WHEN NEEDED EVEN IF THEY HAD TO EAT OUT LESS TO PAY FOR IT. SORRY BUT MEDICAL NEGLECT IS NOT BEING A LOVING PARENT WHEN YOUR CHILD IS CRYING FOR A WEEK STRAIGHT WITH A PAINFUL EAR INFECTION AND YOU DO NOTHING ABOUT IT. !!! SORRY BUT HIS $150 A MONTH IN DISABILITY FOR THE KIDS ENDS THIS MONTH THAT IS PART OF THE REASON IM TRYING OT GET THE KIDS SINCE HE HAS NO MORE DISABILITY AND WILL NOT EVEN START TO LOOK FOR A JOB. HOW WILL HE PROVIDE FOOD FOR THE KIDS SITTING ON HIS BUTT PLAYING VIDEO GAMES.

Public Comments

1. There are two sides to every story. It's usually in the best interest of the children to have both parents in their lives as much as possible.
2. Being Perfection is not what makes the difference...nor do dishes in the sink or an unmade bed, simple scatter or modest living quarters, and a disability equal a less fit parent. next you'll be throwing in their credit scores and ability to decorate, and the fact their socks don't match.....wow. The guardian ad litem looks at how the children are cared for, how they are treated, how they feel in the company of their parents. Why are you willing to rob a child of time spent with a beloved parent? Thinking of yourself? No reason why legal custody can't be 50/50 with one parent the custodial (because of the school year), and the other with a very generous visitation schedual (weekends, summers and share the holidays).
3. Edit: I don't know of a state in the USA that pays $150/mo for welfare disability. Are you sure that is what it is? Even Workers Comp pays more than that. I have a neighbor that draws Social Security disability payments and he gets $1,700/mo. and his two children draw a total of $1,700/mo. My late brother drew $1,800/mo SS benefits. I think you have been given wrong information about the father's income. ______________ A shortage of money does NOT make a bad parent, neither does living in a mobile home. The transplant may very well be the reason the other parent cannot afford to spend a lot of money at this time. I think it would be extremely mean and hateful of the other parent to try and take all or most of the custody from this unfortunate parent. I hope and pray that the guardian ad litem has the good sense to see that the other parent who thinks they're such a hotshot may not necessarily be the best custodial parent. btw, with all those "things" how is it that you lost your children? You know, it strikes me as odd that you write about all the worldly possessions that one parent owns and then tries to make the other parent look like trash. Nowhere have you mentioned the most important things like happy children, the children's education, their emotional and physical well being. I hope to God the custody decision remains unchanged. Being poor doesn't make a parent unloving, unprotective, uncaring, or any less of a wonderful responsible parent. Since the custodial parent is drawing disability, his biological children can also draw a support check against his disability. You wouldn't be thinking of trying to take that from the father also would you? That is probably what he uses to provide for his children.